City Life & Quiet Wisdom

Pros

• Meet people out of your circle
• Great for introverts
• Dates on demand
• Great way to fill weekends as a single person – plus meet prosects
• Meet people out of your league sometimes
• Exciting and fun, great stories to tell later
• Success cases for finding both casual and serious relationships
• Highest chance of meeting someone compared to traditional bump into you and say hi at bar way
• Generally easier.

Cons

• People out of your circle may be out of your circle for a reason – unshared values, hobbies, ethics etc.
• Dominated by great photoshoppers, beauty but lack of effective way to screen personality and other very important aspects
  • i.e. tone, the way of speech
  • how spontaneous someone is when they talk or how articulate
  • if personalities and hobbies are actually real – tonnes of inaccurate representations
  • Great texters but probably bad conversationalists
• 80/20 on dating pool dominated by those with great stats – height, photos etc. but not necessarily realistic
• Exhaustion from going on dates, particularly if you are in a human facing day job. Feels like work
• Plenty of small talk and repeating yourself over and over again
• Expensive if you decide to pay
• The inability to choose. Apps are designed to keep you they and make you pay for premium. Finding someone is the story and narrative to market to you. Ideally they want you to be indecisive
• its hard to know someone well without much interest or due diligence
• Constant battle between yourself but also the other person on whether they will commit or not
• Pressures of getting dates and matches like KPIs
• Being asked how dating life is or bumble life – for juicy stories rather than people actually caring about your dating life.

There is no right or wrong like any double edged sword, its invention has been great and destructive to some within the context of humanity.